Posts Tagged ‘support’
I can start by telling my truth(s) – as I begin to know of them – to those safe people who will believe me, and not pity me. As I get stronger I will know when I feel safe telling people that I may not know so well. This is how I will connect with, get support from, and perhaps in time, help other survivors.
One of the thing I did not receive as a child was the quality of gentleness. The sexual abuse was not gentle to my body, emotions, spirit, or intellect. Instead I got disrespect, harshness, and sometimes brutality. It is not a surprise that one of the hardest things for me to give myself now, is gentleness.
When I feel critical of myself, I will stop and remember that this emanates from all the messages I received from my offenders. Instead of continuing to support these falsities, I will start to replace the thoughts with ones I originally deserved to hear – full of gentleness and loving support of my precious being. This is one of the ways in which I can continue to hold the right people accountable and I can begin to adopt an attitude of gentleness toward myself.
I need to be gentle with all parts of myself. I have too long had the burden of someone else’s sickness and shame.
I can be gentle with myself by honoring and respecting all of my feelings and by affirming the beautifully, unique pace of my healing process. I will treat myself as I would a young child in times of great pain and fear – with patience, understanding, and gentleness.