Sanctuary and Serenity

Posts Tagged ‘loving


Learning to Parent Myself.
There have been many guides in my life.  There were people who helped me learn to parent myself, in a more nurturing, kind way.  I do not have to be alone.  I will need help in undoing a lot of the negative parenting skills I know and have internalized as a direct result of the abuse.  I need objective people who truly understand what any child needs to grow and flourish emotionally and spiritually.
These guides are found in many places and at many different times in my life.  Some are a consistent part of my life, others only for a fleeting moment.  However I may get this parenting knowledge, my inner-child will be much richer and stronger in spirit.
Each time I actively use the knowledge I get from my guides, I will be showing my child-within my love for her and my compassion for her past abuses.  She deserves to be parented in a loving, respectful way, and I can begin to give that to her.  She will help me know just what she needs from each guide.


My Own Higher Power.
Because my first experience of a *higher power* was my parents…in my abusive family, I quickly learned that my higher power was not safe, that *it* loved me conditionally…and that I would be punished or abandoned if I made mistakes.  No wonder I may have felt hopelessness and confusion.  I may have firmly believed that no one was going to be there for me, no one.
As an adult in recovery, I can create my own higher power…I can choose what or who to believe in, and fill my mind and soul with the missing attributes that were required as a child.  I know I deserve to be alive, and a loving force will support my choices in this life.  My own higher power can be nurturing, caring and safe for me.