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I Deserve to Wear Flattering Clothing
Wearing clothes that flatter or reveal the shape of your body does not mean you are “asking” to be abused.  This is a valid fear for the inner child…and as an adult, you may, at times, have tried dressing to compliment your body, but could never quite feel confident that this was OK or healthy.
As I recovering from my abuse, I learn that I don’t have to hide my body with shapeless or colorless clothing.  I can let go of the shame about my body and know that its shape is truly beautiful and worthy of my respect.
I know that the way I choose to dress today, is up to me, and is not a reflection of my sexual intentions.  I can choose clothes that flatter my body and I can proclaim my femininity.  I don’t have to worry that how I dress myself will determine the behaviour of anyone else.  This is not possible.  I know that I have no control over others’ thoughts, feelings, or behaviour!
I am free to dress myself exactly as I wish – to embrace my sexuality. If old feelings resurface and I feel unsafe with how I express myself, I can listen and acknowledge those feelings and reassure myself of my rights.  I should never fear that the sight alone of my body will bring abuse from anyone.


Warning…hard to read…emotionally

My name is Sarah

I am but three

My eyes are swollen

I cannot see

I must be stupid

I must be bad

What else could have made

My daddy so mad?

I wish I were better

I wish I weren’t ugly

Then maybe my mommy

Would still want to hug me.

I can’t speak at all

I can’t do a wrong

Or else I’m locked up

All the day long.

When I awake I’m all alone

The house is dark

My folks aren’t home

When my mommy does come

I’ll try and be nice

So maybe I’ll get just

One whipping tonight.

Don’t make a sound!

I just heard a car

My daddy is back

From Charlie’s Bar.

I hear him curse

My name he calls

I press myself

Against the wall

I try and hide

From his evil eyes

I’m so afraid now

I’m starting to cry

He finds me weeping

He shouts ugly words,

He says its my fault

That he suffers at work.

He slaps me and hits me

And yells at me more,

I finally get free

And I run for the door.

He’s already locked it

And I start to bawl,

He takes me and throws me

Against the hard wall.

I fall to the floor

With my bones nearly broken,

And my daddy continues

With more bad words spoken.

“I’m sorry!”, I scream

But its now much too late

His face has been twisted

Into unimaginable hate

The hurt and the pain

Again and again

Oh please God, have mercy!

Oh please let it end!

And he finally stops

And heads for the door,

While I lay there motionless

Sprawled on the floor

My name is Sarah

And I am but three,

Tonight my daddy

Murdered me.

There are thousands of kids out there just like Sarah and maybe you were one. You can help.  Please pass this poem on because as crazy as it might sound, it might just indirectly change a life. Hey, you NEVER know.  PLEASE forward if YOU are  against CHILD ABUSE.

I am soooo Worth-ful.
Unconditional love and acceptance-this makes us feel worth-ful.  When you are loved and accepted just because you are in the universe – simply just for being.  I am born with worth, and no one can take that away from me – not ever!! Many have tried.
When I can connect in my soul with a power greater than myself or with any other human, I am learning that I am a miracle of creation — full of worth, and love, and even talents.
Because as a child I was abused, I need to re-affirm to myself every day that I have worth — just because I am.  I can do this in any creative way I choose.
“No less than the trees and the stars I have a right to be here.” ~Desiderata


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