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I wonder why I feel so stressed when people do this.  I have to try to remember that no, no I don’t have  to answer.  I can scroll away.  FB causes me stress.  When people say shitty things.  I do not have to answer all of them.  I can remove them.  Block them.

I can look after me.





Well, I’ve learned… the system isn’t here for the abused.

The police lost the paperwork for thirty years, called me in and asked if I wanted to continue the case.  I said yes.

He didn’t get sent away.  yay him.  Good thing that having him in court was good enough for me, thirty years later.  Good thing I am not a sum of all he has put me through.

Is it wrong to think – he’s 70 – he’ll die soon??

Sigh… Serenity


This woman has been kind, gentle, and has much love,
All of this has been given with the blessing of the Great Spirit above,
But Great Spirit gave her something else and she didn’t know it,
The Great Spirit gave her the blessing of being a Warrior woman as now her light is lit!

This warrior woman has come fully alive today,
She is no longer anyone’s slave or prey,
She is taking back her life today,
And those who know who she truly is, can stay.

No longer will she live the lives of others,
She will give back the blames and responsibilities of others where it belongs,
For she also has the bear and wolf inside her,
Which is now so very powerful and uniquely strong.

The Warrior woman now knows what road she must follow,
For others it will be to hard to swallow,
Her life was taken from her unknowingly many years ago,
And this warriorwoman is taking back her life before the next wind blows.

Oh Sister Moon you give me the strength,
As a warrior woman to conquer what’s on my path,
High above and way beneath,
And the much needed strength to take on the wrath.

This warrior woman is fully awake and is taking a stand,
Taking the problems by the horns with her hands,
I will conquer all that is there,
All and who comes as they dare.

Warrior woman has fully awaken,
And many will see that they have mistaken,
Of robbing her of her life, they as a thief,
Warrior woman will conquer! And have no grief!

This warrior woman will protect her people, her son, and those who need her,
If anyone hurts them, look out!
They will hear a GGGGGGRRRRRRRRR,
As they run and shout!

This warrior woman is taking back her life,
Taking back the respect that was taken from her throughout the years ever so slow,
This warrior woman is removing pain and hurt from within the heart caused by the knife,
From all those who are both family and foe.

I am claiming what’s mine, and my dignity,
From those who live in this society of vanity,
I am claiming back in full my heritage,
And as a warrior woman I am going to clean up many years of carnage.

For now standing in front of you,
You see this warrior woman, you see me,
Someone special has taught me to be free,
From this day forward for me no more slavery,
Gentleness, kindness, and love is part of me, and so is my dignity,
This is NOT WEAKNESS, as others believe,
But this strength is within me and you.

I will listen to the spirits and grow,
I will travel in the whispering winds as they blow,
All the work I now do will be for Our People and all nations,
I will protect and guide the future generations.

Now it is time for me to travel on my new path,
As a warrior woman conquering all wrath,
If you ever see and want to meet me,
Please come, and I will also teach and share with you how to be free.

Author Unknown 😦

If anyone has any idea who the Author is

of the Beautiful poem, please let me know

so I can give the proper credit.


A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill.  In the room of 200, he asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?”  Hands started going up.  He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first let me do this.”  He proceeded to crumple the dollar bill up.  He then asked, “Who still wants it?”  Still the hands were up in the air.  “Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?”  And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe.  He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty.  “Now who still wants it?”  Still the hands went into the air.  “My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson.  No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value.  It was still worth $20.  Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.  We feel as though we are worthless.  But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.  You are special-Don’t ever forget it!

~Author Unknown~



A philosophy professor stood before his class and had some items in front of him. When class began, wordlessly he picked up a large empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, rocks about 2″ in diameter. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. So, the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He then asked the student again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The students laughed. The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course the sand filled up everything else. “Now” said the professor, ” I want you to recognize that his is your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – anything that is so important to you that if it were lost you would be nearly destroyed. The pebbles are the other things that matter, like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else. The small stuff. If you put the sand into the jar first there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your energy and time on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal. Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

~Author N/A~


Relationship Bill of Rights

The right to emotional support

The right to be heard by your partner and to be responded to with courtesy

The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real and valid

The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern you

The right to live free from criticism and judgment

The right to live free from accusation and blame

The right to encouragement

The right to live free from emotional and physical threat

The right to be respectfully asked, rather than “ordered”

The right to goodwill from your partner

The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage

Personal Bill of Rights.1. I have the right to make my own decisions.

2. I have the right to use my own judgment.

3. I have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty.

4. I have the right to feel anger and express it appropriately.

5. I have the right to make mistakes.

6. I have the right to be treated as a capable human being.

7. I have the right to feel and express love and affection.

8. I have the right to have my needs be as important as others’.

9. I have the right to my feelings.

10. I have a right to ask for what I want.

11. I have the right to change my mind.

Instructions For Life

1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

2. Memorize your favorite poem.

3. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

4. When you say, “I love you”, mean it.

5. When you say, “I’m sorry”, look the person in the eye.

6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

7. Believe in love at first sight.

8. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much.

9. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.

10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

11. Don’t judge people by their relatives.

12. Talk slowly but think quickly.

13. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, “Why do you want to know?”

14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

15. Call your mom.

16. Say “bless you” when you hear someone sneeze.

17. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

18. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.

19. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

20. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

21. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

22. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

23. Spend some time alone.

24. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

25. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

26. Read more books and watch less TV.

27. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll get to enjoy it a second time.

28. Trust in God but lock your car.

29. A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.

30. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

31. Read between the lines.

32. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.

33. Be gentle with the earth.

34. Pray. There’s immeasurable power in it.

35. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.

36. Mind your own business.

37. Don’t trust a man/woman who doesn’t close his/her eyes when you kiss.

38. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

39. If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth’s greatest satisfaction.

40. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.

41. Learn the rules then break some.

42. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.

43. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

44. Remember that your character is your destiny.

45. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

~Author Unknown~

How to be Unhappy

* Make little things bother you.   Don’t just let them, MAKE them.

* Lose your perspective on things and keep it lost: don’t put first things first.

* Get yourself a good worry, one about which you cannot do anything.

* Be a perfectionist, which means not that you work hard to do your best, but that you condemn yourself and others for not achieving perfection.

* Be right. Be always right. Be the only one who is always right, and be rigid in your rightness.

* Don’t trust or believe people, or accept them at anything but their worst and weakest.

* Be suspicious. Insist that others always have hidden motives.

* Always compare yourself unfavorably to others. This guarantees instant misery.

* Take personally everything that happens to you.

* Don’t give yourself whole-heartily to anyone or anything.

~Author Unknown~

The Handwriting on the Wall

A weary mother returned from the store,
Lugging groceries through the kitchen door.
Awaiting her arrival was her eight year old son,
Anxious to relate what his younger brother had done.

“While I was out playing and Dad was on a call,
T.J. took his crayons and wrote on the wall!
It’s on the new paper you just hung in the den.
I told him you’d be mad at having to do it again.”

She let out a moan and furrowed her brow,
“Where is your little brother right now?”
She emptied her arms and with a purposeful stride,
She marched to his closet where he had gone to hide.

She called his full name as she entered his room.
He trembled with fear – he knew that meant doom!
For the next ten minutes, she ranted and raved
About the expensive wallpaper and how she had saved.

Lamenting all the work it would take to repair,
She condemned his actions and total lack of care.
The more she scolded, the madder she got,
Then stomped from his room, totally distraught!

She headed for the den to confirm her fears.
When she saw the wall, her eyes flooded with tears.
The message she read pierced her soul with a dart.
It said, “I love Mommy,” surrounded by a heart.

Well, the wallpaper remained, just as she found it,
With an empty picture frame hung to surround it.
A reminder to her, and indeed to all,
Take time to read the handwriting on the wall.
~Author Unknown.~