Sanctuary and Serenity

Codependent Beliefs / Myths on Anger

Posted on: March 27, 2010


  • It’s not ok to feel angry.
  • Anger is a waste of time and energy.
  • Good, nice people don’t feel angry.
  • We shouldn’t feel angry when we do.
  • We’ll lose control and go crazy if we get angry.
  • People will go away if we get angry with them.
  • Other people should never feel anger toward us.
  • If others get angry with us, we must have done something wrong.
  • If other people are angry with us, we made them feel that way and we’re responsible for fixing their feelings.
  • If we feel angry, someone else made us feel that way and that person is responsible for fixing our feelings.
  • If we feel angry with someone, the relationship is over and that perosn has to go away.
  • If we feel angry with someone, we should punish that person for making us feel angry.
  • If we feel angry with someone, that person has to change what he or she is doing so we don’t feel angry anymore.
  • If we feel angry, we have to hit someone or break something.
  • If we feel angry, we have to shout and holler.
  • If we feel angry with someone, it means we don’t love that person anymore.
  • If someone feels angry with us, it means that person doesn’t love us anymore.
  • Anger is a sinful emotion.
  • It’s ok to feel angry only when we can justify our feelings.
~Of course not all will apply to everyone…but worth thinking over.

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