Sanctuary and Serenity

The Right to Feel Angry.

Posted on: March 26, 2010


The Right to Feel Angry.
As a child I witnessed violent anger in the form of rage – acted out or silent – and so I may have figured that anger was not a safe emotion to feel.  I felt the abuser’s anger intensely every time I was sexually abused.  I may not have been aware of this anger, but it was there -unspoken.  As a defenseless, innocent child, I was certainly not aware of my own anger at what was happening to me.  I was too trapped in terror and was attempting to move out of the experience – at least on the emotional and the intellectual levels.
I may still experience guilt, fear, or an entire range of emotions and thoughts whenever I feel anger at someone or a situation.  Anger may still be unwelcome and uncomfortable for me, and I may go to great lengths to avoid it – particularly in regard to relationships with others.
As an adult, I have the ability and the freedom to learn that anger is, and that I have every right to feel it and express it in ways that I feel are safe for me.  I can get help with learning to express my anger so it can eventually feel like a normal, acceptable emotion.  This may not be simple, and I might need to exercise patience with myself as I learn to do this.
As I heal, I will learn that my inner-child has a huge amount of anger and rage that she feels toward her offender.  She will need a great deal of help from me in helping to express these feelings in safe ways.  She has every right to feel anger about her abuse, and I can help her to heal by affirming this for her.  She can begin to feel the anger she was absolutely entitled to feel during and after the abuse.  I need to know that I have the right to feel angry and that I am not bad because I feels this.  I am finally getting the opportunity to feel my natural feelings.

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