Sanctuary and Serenity

Sexual Inactivity.

Posted on: March 26, 2010

I Can Choose to be Sexually Inactive.
My feelings and perceptions about my own sexuality have probably always been skewed and very confusing to me.  When I learn about my sexual abuse, the causes of some of this negative thinking and feeling is finally making sense to me.  However, I will need to relearn healthy attitudes and accurate information about my own sexuality.
I can choose at the most vulnerable times to be sexually inactive, as I am in the healing process from my abuse, My choice provides protection and safety for my terrified inner child, who may be flooded with a lot of scary and confusing memories.  Her feelings will be intense as the memories become real for her, and I will need to provide protection and gentleness for her.  She deserves to finally receive gentle nurturing and protection.
To be sexually inactive may create conflict for me if I am involved in, or maybe considering being involved, in a sexually intimate relationship.  Only I will be able to make that decision which is best for me, since I know my healing process intimately.  The important thing is to tell my truths, to myself especially, and to others, and to be gentle and patient with my small child-within.  At the very least, she deserves my respect.


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