Sanctuary and Serenity


Posted on: March 26, 2010

“An emotional, psychological, and behavioural condition that develops as a result of an individual’s prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules – rules which prevent the open expression of feeling as well as the direct discussion of personal and interpersonal problems.”
~Robert Subby, Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue.

“Those self-defeating, learned behaviours or character defects that result in a diminished capacity to initiate or to participate in loving relationships.”
~Earnie Larsen.

“Codependency means that I’m a caretaker.”

“Being codependent means I’m married to an alcoholic.  It also means I need to go to Al-Anon.”

“Codependency means I’m up to my elbows in alcoholics.”

“It means I’m always looking for someone to glob onto.”

“Codependency?  I means I know any man I’m attracted to, fall in love with, or marry will be chemically dependent or have some other equally serious problem.”

“Codependency is knowing all your relationships will either go on and on the same way (painfully), or end the same way (disastrously).  Or both.”

“…codependency…originally it was used to describe the person or persons whose lives were affected as a result of their being involved with someone who was chemically dependent.  The codependent spouse or child or lover of someone who was chemically dependent was seen as having developed a pattern of coping with life that was not healthy, as a reaction to someone else’s drug or alcohol abuse.”
~Robert Subby and John Friel, from Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue.

“A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.”

~Melody Beattie, Codependent No More.


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