Sanctuary and Serenity

Boundaries.

Posted on: March 26, 2010


Who Will Touch Me.
As a child I had no rights – where my body was concerned.  I was subjected to indiscriminate, inappropriate touching by adult(s) that did not feel right, good or nurturing to me.  I was obligated to endure those uneasy and scary feelings as a child.
In my recovery I am learning to set boundaries and I realize that I have a right to determine by whom and how I will be touched.  Depending on how I feel, I can say “no” or “yes” to others who want to touch me.  It is my choice.  I listen the “inner-radar” that tells me – when I listen – if touching is OK.  My inner voice, along with my adult skills, helps me to learn who the safe people are.
I can seek out a *safe* person and ask for a hug or a pat on the back and simply note how it feels.  I can also remember that I have the right to decline being touched in any way, by others, and that I can tell them precisely how I want to be touched.

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s


  • faithfulwoman4you: Some people are drama queens and need a lot of turmoil in their lives!! In a way thats sad, because it is nice to have peace and serenity but alas the
  • Writing Lessons from Dr. Seuss | Tess Fragoulis – Writer: […] them, and can still recite good portions of How the Grinch Stole Christmas, Too Many Daves, and The Zax, which I even acted out in my bedroo
  • serenityunicorn: You are very welcome! Sorry it took me so long... haven't really been on my blogs in a long time lol
%d bloggers like this: