Sanctuary and Serenity

Al-Anon – Is It For You?

Posted on: March 26, 2010


Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close.  The following twenty questions are designed to help you decide whether or not you need Al-Anon.
  1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?
  2. Do you have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
  3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking?
  4. Do you feel that drinking is more important to your loved one than you are?
  5. Do you think that the drinker’s behaviour is caused by his or her companions?
  6. Are mealtimes frequently delayed because of the drinker?
  7. Do you make threats, such as, “If you don’t stop drinking I’ll leave you”?
  8. When you kiss the drinker hello, do you secretly try to smell his or her breath?
  9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
  10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker’s behaviour?
  11. Does it seem as if every holiday is spoiled because of drinking?
  12. Have you considered calling the police because of drinking behaviour?
  13. Do you find yourself searching for hidden liquor?
  14. Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
  15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
  16. Do you sometimes feel guilty when you think of the lengths you have gone to to control the drinker?
  17. Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
  18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker into saying, “I’m sorry” or “I love you”?
  19. Do you ever treat people (children, employees, parents, co-workers, etc.) unjustly because you are angry at someone else for dinking too much?
  20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problem?

If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, Al-Anon or Alateen may help.  You can contact them by looking in your phone book.

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